(30 Things To Stop Spending Time On If You Want to Be Successful #23)
“Work is when you confront the problems you might otherwise be tempted to run away from.”
— Rolf Potts
Most people spend much of their life on their feet. They run from people, problems, and physical locations. They run from school, family, careers, and ambitions. But most of all, many people are running from themselves. And if they aren’t running, they’re thinking about it or tying up their shoes to hit the road.
Most people don’t even know why they’re running, what they’re running from, or where they’re running to. They’re just running to get away from it — whatever that “it” is. They’ve got excuses. They aren’t good enough, they don’t have enough, they don’t know enough, they aren’t happy, they aren’t comfortable, they aren’t content, they aren’t like this person or that person.
But here is the problem we run into when we start running, eventually you get tired, you grow exhausted, your legs, head, heart, and soul ache. You have to stop running at some point. Why? Because you were never meant to spend your time and energy running from the things you can’t change and certainly not running from the things you can change.
Running when things fall apart has never put those things back together. You get hit harder when you’re trying to run or hide from a problem. The problem compounds itself, it just gets bigger and bigger. Think about the defense on a football team. The team begins to lose when the defense puts all its energy and focus on getting away from one defender. To hide from a problem is to be blindsided and to ultimately lose.
The most successful people don’t spend their time hurrying from one place to another trying to find something that isn’t even there. They stay where they are and make the best out of what they have. Most success comes out of hardship, pain, heartbreak, and difficulty. Nothing comes easy and just because you encounter a series of adversities where one thing turns into another thing doesn’t give you a reason to escape.
It takes courage to stand up in the middle of a storm and to keep on standing until the storm passes. Because that’s what storms do. They come and then they. They don’t stay forever. They might stay for a long time, but they don’t stay forever. You must learn to become a person who doesn’t spend time fantasizing about running away from this life to some other fairy tale life and spend time figuring out the life you have.
Life is meant for living, not for running. Running away is so easy and that’s why so many people do it. Life — real life — is work, very hard work and it takes courage to live this life the way it was meant to be lived. You have a purpose and the only way you can fulfill that purpose is by spending time actually doing it. Those who run many times don’t even know what to do once they get to wherever it is they’re going.
We can’t escape, although some people try. Everything — the skeletons, the broken hangers, the moth-eaten coats, the torn sheets — it’s part of your life and you can’t run from it. And you can’t run from you because wherever you go, you will be there and the internal problems that you wish would go away will still be there. The shade doesn’t always protect you from the rain. If you’re under the wrong shade, you’ll still get wet.
We are only given so many minutes, so many days, so many years, and so much time. It is best we use it on the things that matter like reaching our goals and fulfilling our dreams. Running only causes us to look back on our life in deep regret for not accomplishing the things we could have. Running doesn’t bring true happiness or right feelings.
It is one thing to get out of situations and environments that are not working. And sometimes you might have to fight your way out because you see something up ahead that no one else can see. But it is entirely a different thing to run from your life and try to run from yourself when it is in your power to change, improve, and become a better person. No one can really ruin your life unless you let them. Equally as true is that no one can live your life unless you do.
“Let yourself be open and life will be easier. A spoon of salt in a glass of water makes the water undrinkable. A spoon of salt in a lake is almost unnoticed.”