“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.”
— Ashley Montagu
“The pursuit of happiness” isn’t just words engraved into the Declaration of Independence. It’s the core goal of almost every human being.
While happiness often depends on the happenings, research shows that our actions and thoughts dictate a large portion of how happy or unhappy we become. We have more control of “the pursuit of happiness” than we imagine.
So what are some habits of happy people?
1. They embrace the tough times in life.
No one is immune to life’s challenges — even those who are perpetually happy. Happy people approach the tough times in their life with a positive mindset alongside a heavy dose of reality. They know that this challenge is really no different from any other they have encountered and they know they will get through it.
2. They live in the now.
Those who are consistently happy know the importance of staying in the moment. They choose to enjoy all experiences of life. Instead of living in a bubble, they open themselves up to opportunities that come their way. They don’t try to escape life, instead, they find something good and positive to spend their time on.
3. They don’t worry about what they can’t control.
Happy people know that there are certain situations and things out of their control. One of the main things out of our control is people. We can’t control people no matter how hard we try. Learning to ignore things that are a waste of time and energy ensures that you spend your time and energy focused on the things that are important to you.
4. They drop toxic relationships.
Who you are as a person is largely a reflection of the people around you. Happy people pay attention to the people they choose to surround themselves with. They know that the kind of support system they have can make or break them. Happiness, like fear, is an emotion. Both are highly contagious. The more you are around one or the other, the more likely you are to have that attitude.
5. They dedicate themselves to important causes.
Service is the heartbeat of happy people. They genuinely enjoy giving of their time, talent, and resources to people in need and organizations who assist others. They know that the more they give, the more blessings are multiplied in their life. Generosity produces happiness and eliminates selfishness and a me-first mentality.
6. They develop and commit to goals for their life.
Happy people set goals for themselves and then spend their time reaching those goals. They know that goals without action is meaningless and action without goals is counterproductive. If you don’t know what you want and are not intent on getting it, you will be spinning your wheels, committing to everything but accomplishing nothing.
7. They express gratitude daily.
Happy people appreciate the good things and good people that come into their lives. They are also thankful for any bad conditions they encounter and difficult people they engage with. Both the good and the bad create situations that help guide us to live brilliant lives. Happy people express their gratitude on a daily basis, knowing that thankfulness produces more of what one is thankful for.
8. They embrace discomfort and failure.
Success rarely happens without failure. Achievement rarely comes about without some discomfort. Happy people dare to take risks, look for challenging opportunities and are willing to be uncomfortable if the end result leads to greater accomplishment. Obstacles are not just part of the way, it is the way.
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
— Frederick Keonig