“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”
— Mandy Hale
Too many people are not happy with their lives. They feel dissatisfied, stuck, and even trapped. A lot of these people don’t realize they have the power to change their feelings and their thoughts and as a result change their lives. No one or nothing can control your life unless you let it. You have the power to respond to life in positive ways and use your mind and behavior to get unstuck and live the life you were created to live.
Here are 7 things to do when you start to feel stuck:
1. Be aware that life reacts to your actions.
You hold within the same mind and body the power to see the world the way you want to see it. Life will react to the way you behave. If your outlook is positive, that is the way life will respond to you. In the same way, if your outlook is negative, life will respond in similar fashion. Begin to think about your life in a way that is beneficial and that induces meaning. As you do this, you will see your mind begin to change and your life begin to improve.
2. Find your purpose and pursue your passion.
Many people look to “the experts,” — the psychologists, doctors, psychiatrists, spiritual leaders, and counselors of our day to tell us what we should be doing. But really no one knows you better than you know yourself. You need to be able to trust your own mind and understand the direction in which you know you should be going. Not what someone else says you should follow. Your purpose and your passions are very unique to you because you are a unique individual.
3. Be honest about your goals and dreams.
A large part of getting unstuck is knowing when you’ve gotten off track or are following someone else’s plan for you instead of your own. You can feel it in your gut when you’re doing a job just for the sake of getting paid or showing up just because you have to. While you can help others out and show support for what others are doing, it is important to make sure you’re not a push over, putting your life on hold while you spend your time and energy following the path someone else has cut out for you.
4. Be friends with your personal power and embrace responsibility.
It is easy to blame others for the bad things that happen in our lives. Blame leaves us with no responsibility and no responsibility means we don’t have to put in an effort because the outcome won’t be our fault. The truth is, if you’re feeling stuck or trapped in your life, you have complete control of changing your situation. You are the only person who can change your unhappiness to happiness or your lack to abundance. Make the choices that will help you get to where you want to go.
5. Stop, sit still, and take a break.
Many people believe that in order to get unstuck, you have to be moving. That’s only one part of the plan. Sometimes in order to break free from the feeling of being trapped, you need to stop moving, take a break, and sit still. While you’re sitting still, you aren’t just doing nothing. You’re spending time thinking and planning your next move. So when you get up from your immobile position, you have a better view of where you’re going and how you’re going to get there. Sometimes the best way to move forward is to stand still.
6. Do work that makes you grateful to be alive.
Your work, your career, your job doesn’t define you. But it should be a part of your day that you enjoy doing and that makes you grateful and happy to be alive. To be able to contribute something of worth to the larger part of society is indeed a privilege for anyone on the planet. Spending 40 hours a week doing something you absolutely hate just to pay bills is no way to live life and a miserable way to retire. You won’t find the perfect job or career ever, but you should strive to improve and find what fits your skill set, talent, and preferences.
7. Engage with the needs of others.
One of the best ways to get out of being stuck is to turn your attention to the needs of someone else. A focus on one’s self all of the time only leads to days of missed opportunities and failure to notice the possibilities. When we find ways to serve and give to others, our lives are enriched by the encounter. This type of social engagement offers our attitude and outlook a boost. By helping others, we help ourselves.
If you are feeling stuck or like there is no way out, take a moment to assess your life. Fear of the unknown can make you a prisoner and cause you to stay stuck longer than you want to. Your life is for living not for being stuck, and certainly not for staying stuck.
“Let yourself move to the next chapter in life when the time comes. Don’t remain stuck on the same page.”